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HABITS OF HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL TEENS
HABIT
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5. SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, AND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE DON’T LISTEN VERY WELL, ONE OF THE
GREAT FRUSTRATIONS IN LIFE IS THAT MANY DON’T FEEL UNDERSTOOD. THE HABIT WILL
ENSURE YOUR TEEN LEARNS THE MOST IMPORTANT COMMUNICATION SKILL THERE IS: ACTIVE
LISTENING.
WHY IS THIS HABIT THE KEY TO COMMUNICATION? IT’S BECAUSE
THE DEEPEST NEED OF THE HUMAN HEART IS TO BE UNDERSTOOD. EVERYONE WANTS TO BE
RESPECTED AND VALUED FOR WHO THEY ARE—A UNIQUE, ONE-OF-A-KIND, NEVER –TO-BE-CLONED
INDIVIDUAL. PEOPLE WONT EXPOSE THEIR SOFT MIDDLES UNLESS THEY FEEL GENUINE LOVE
AND UNDERSTANDING. ONCE THEY FEEL IT, HOWEVER, THEY WILL TELL YOU MORE THAN YOU
MAY WANT TO HEAR. PEOPLE DON’T CARE HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH
YOU CARE.
LISTEN WITH YOUR EYES, HEART, AND EARS. 7 PERCENT OF
COMMUNICATION IS CONTAINED IN THE WORDS WE USE. THE REST COMES FROM BODY
LANGUAGE (53 PERCENT) AND HOW WE SAY WORDS, OR THE TONE AND FEELING REFLECTED
IN OUR VOICE (40 PERCENT).
MOST PEOPLE ARE EAGER TO TALK AND HAD RATHER TALK THAN
LISTEN. WE HAVE ONE MOUTH AND TWO EARS. THIS MEANS WE SHOULD LISTEN TWICE AS MUCH
AS WE TALK. WE ACTUALLY LEARN MORE WHILE LISTENING RATHER THAN WHEN WE
TALK.LEARN TO LISTEN AND LISTEN TO LEARN.
LISTEN, REALLY LISTEN, FOR UNDERSTANDING.
SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD-----LISTEN.
CHOOSE
THE RIGHT!!!
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